By Dillon Schupp
It’s Mother’s Day this week, which means life is- and should be- all about Mom.
Guys: this is official notice: if you haven’t planned something special for the mother of your children, now is your opportunity! Don’t blow it…and don’t cheap out on her while you spend a lot of money at Lowes…just saying.
Since I’ve become a parent, Mother’s Day is even more special now as it’s a chance for me to treat my wife and honor her just simply because she is a mom, and I’m looking forward to the day when our son (just a little over a year old now) is old enough to understand the importance of Mother’s Day and can plan his own special treat for his mom (though I don’t want that time to get here too quickly and it’s already going by fast enough!). Almost more than anything else I want for my son, I want him to honor his mom. Not just on Mother’s Day, but throughout the year.
Dads- we instinctively want that, right? We know it’s the right thing for our children to do. We expect them to show respect to their mom, to be polite, and to treat her with all the kindness and honor she deserves.
But here’s the thing, dads: If we aren’t showing our wife the honor she deserves in the first place, it is thoroughly unrealistic to expect our kids to honor her either.
So, Dad…how are you treating your wife?
Do you always speak kindly…or do you frequently speak out of irritation, anger, or impatience?
Are you gentle…or are you harsh?
Do you put her needs first…or do you consistently prioritize what you want over what she desires?
Do you speak well about her in front of your children when she’s not around…or do you take that opportunity to vent and gripe about her?
Dads: how we treat our wives is going to be mirrored by the way our children treat her, because- as I’m learning with a small child- kids are masters of imitation. And what they see is what they will do regardless of what we tell them to do.
Simply put: The degree to which you, Dad, honor your wife is going to be the degree to which your children do the same.
Are there exceptions? Sure- we can treat our wives well and our kids may still not honor her- especially as they age and become more independent.
However: if we consistently dishonor our wives, it is all but certain our children will do the same, because we cannot expect our kids to do something we will not do.
So, Dad: this Mother’s Day, go all out for your wife. Do something special. Make it awesome. Help your kids do something for her as well.
But what will matter so much more to her is if you choose to honor her throughout the year in the way you treat her.
And if you want your children to honor her on more than Mother’s Day, it’s going to certainly start with you.